I don’t know how I missed this article in 2016 since I am such a regular reader of the Huffington Post, but I did. I certainly am glad I found it now since it so directly supports the theory that it really is all men, we are just waiting for the right situation.
I think men have to start asking their wives, girlfriends, sisters, cousins, friends and, then, believing them when they tell them about being groped, kissed without permission, propositioned aggressively, come on to by bosses, teachers, or other authority figures.
The night he raped a woman behind a dumpster, Brock took a photo of her naked breasts and sent it to his buddies in a group chat. Judging from the screenshots that surfaced online, none of his friends seemed to think this was weird.
Apparently, men send women unsolicited dick pics, demand nude photos, send nude pictures of women without their permission. All of these things are forms of sexual assault. That men receive nude photos of women as trophies of conquests without strongly objecting is strong evidence that men are just waiting for the right situation.
We All Know A Brock Turner
Every major social shift begins with an uncomfortable conversation. Let’s talk.
I’ve met my own Brock Turner.
That said, I’m pretty sure most of us (if not all) have come across a few versions of him at some point in our lives. At best, we know him as a mere acquaintance who “does dumb stuff at parties,” but is “a really good guy at heart.” At worst, we know him as the boyfriend/classmate/relative/friend who does the unthinkable… and either nobody believes that he did it, or they do and nothing happens.
Most guys like Brock Turner never even go to jail. And most girls, like the one he raped, are forced to live with the consequences. 1 in 5 of us, in fact, according to statistics. But when I align that number with my own personal experience and that of my friends, it’s the majority (not the minority) who have been sexually assaulted at least once. I can count on one hand the number of girlfriends I had in college who had never been sexually assaulted in some form.