From the original article, Simon Dawson/Bloomberg via Getty Images

‘He Was Masturbating… I Felt Like Crying’: What Housekeepers Endure To Clean Hotel Rooms — Huffington Post

When I read this article, I felt like crying. The trauma of the hotel housekeeper after such sexual assaults must be soul crushing. They have to go to the next room. They have to knock and request entry. After such traumatic experiences, going to the next room must take a desperate level of resolve.

While I read this article, I realized it is just more evidence that it is ALL MEN. Men are rapists who are waiting for the perfect storm of sufficiently low levels of empathy and the right situation to commit sexual assault.

ALL MEN have power over some woman. The hotel housekeeper is not the lowest woman on the totem pole, but she’s pretty far down. Almost any man staying at a hotel must feel more powerful than her. Not only are hotel housekeepers down on the social hierarchy, they are a captive audience. They must come to the room because it is their job. They must enter once bidden because it is their job. Even if they were to leave immediately, they’ve still seen and the interaction has taken place. That is complete powerlessness in the situation.

There are two types of men: (1) the kind that do not understand the anguish and pain that their behavior causes, and (2) the kind who want to inflict anguish and pain on their victims. Reading articles like this will help the first type to realize that (a) this is not an effective seduction technique no matter what Clarence Thomas might have led you to believe. Placing a pubic hair on the Coke, bragging about your masturbatory exploits with pornography, or showing someone your dick hard or otherwise has ever caused anyone to be so overcome with sexual desire that they’d actually have sex. Usually the target is so repulsed by such behavior that they want to run screaming from the room but they are frozen with shock, fear, and disbelief. And (b) view women with enough empathy to refrain from such behavior in the future.

Unfortunately, reading such articles probably just encourages the sadistic bastards that want to spread fear and anxiety among women.

I will never look at a housekeeper the same again.

‘He Was Masturbating… I Felt Like Crying’: What Housekeepers Endure To Clean Hotel Rooms

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9 comments

  1. These men who do sexual harassment most likely lack of Testosterone. They need to raise their T level to a certain range so that they acquire hormonal balance so that they gain mental stability 🙂

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    1. Howdy Ken!

      Read the post on the evolution of rape as a reproductive strategy. It is important to realize that it is in all of us and that it is dependent on the situation including the amount of empathy we have at the moment of truth.

      Understanding ourselves is the key to managing and changing behavior.

      Huzzah!
      Jack

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  2. Many hotels have a policy that would avoid this situation. The Hilton group, for example, will not permit a housekeeper to enter the room if a guest is present. No exceptions.
    These folks are some of the hardest working people, ever. They are entitled to our respect.

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    1. Howdy Van!

      Yes, many hotels take pains to protect their housekeeping staff from abuses, but it is not all of the hotels. It really goes a long way to establishing that when there are opportunities, there are men who will take advantage of them.

      Huzzah!
      Jack

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  3. Is it possible for anyone who is in a position of authority or dominance (“power”) over another to be unconscious or ignorant of that unbalanced relationship? I think not. The question then is whether or not they will abuse the other or not. I had this brought home to me in quite another context. I worked as a Mental Health Crisis therapist in a system that called on me to be the primary decision maker on cases of involuntary psychiatric hospitalization, overseen only by my clinic’s psychiatrist and the receiving psychiatrist, but without judicial involvement until after the fact. I had no Patient Advocate or other counter party to challenge me. I had to wear that hat also, and act only according to a strict reading of the law and for the patient’s (or, others’) protection, not my own convenience, not out of frustration, and most of all, not to demonstrate my power or gain compliance with any other goal or desire, not to punish or reward. In any position in relation to another person which provides the possibility of doing harm for one’s own profit or gratification, we must do our best to do no harm. With power come a sacred responsibility. It has been said that power is not safe in the hands of anyone who actually wants it, and that, alas, I thinks is mostly true.

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    1. Howdy Bob!

      If you don’t have the internal controls necessary to curb your behavior, then you’re doomed to violate the rights of others. Unfortunately, Franken seems like maybe he doesn’t have the ability to keep his hands to himself because, like the Ol’ Pussy Grabber said, when you’re famous, they let you. They don’t really let you, though. It is more just shock and fear that keeps them from retaliating and politeness keeps them from speaking up more.

      Those folks who needed you as an advocate in their time of extreme vulnerability were lucky to have you. Abuses in our mental health system are far too many.

      Huzzah!
      Jack

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      1. Then, there’s the matter of the cultural context, which Mr. Trump expressed so well with his “When you’re a star…” comment. Yesterday, I saw on Face Book several posts about the woman who accuses Frankin that amount to outright Slut Shaming for things that happened in other USO shows, actions by her that, in that raunchy theatrical setting were either scripted or strongly encouraged, exactly the sort of thing, if she were testifying in a criminal trial, the defense attorney would be throwing in her face. And, in the Court of Public Opinion, we, the Jury are making a mistake to fall for that. All that stuff happened in the Hollywood that created and enabled Harvey Weinstein and others and informed young women what they must do and tolerate to succeed.

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