Recently, there was an article published in The Washington Post about how the Ol’ Pussy Grabber is all drama queening it up in the Oval and going on long rants to anyone who will listen about how he is the VICTIM of all the nation’s troubles, but, especially, #COVID19! They act like it’s news or something. Narcissists always see themselves as victims. They are never responsible for anything, so anything bad that happens must be happening to them. They’re the victim.

Him! He’s the victim! He’s the victim of the pandemic and Black Lives Matter protests and the failing economy. It is all happening to him.

He’s all Woe is me! What can I do? Nothing! I didn’t ask for this. How can they expect me to solve all of their problems? If they would just LISTEN to me, everything would be fine. They’re only making a big deal out of the 136,000+ dead and 3.2 million infections to spite me. People die everyday! Is it my fault that they do? People get the flu everyday. How is this any different? Why can’t people see the genius of me? Why can’t they just get back to their jobs and schools? Woe, woe is me!

I like their phrasing, though, The [Ol’ Pussy Grabber] has cast himself in the starring role of blameless victim of a deadly pandemic, of a stalled economy, of deep-seated racial unrest, all of which happened to him rather than the country.

And, you’re surprised? L’etat c’est moi, anyone?

They’re all saying, you’ve got to snap out of it. He’s a narcissistic. You don’t snap out of narcissistic personality disorder. If everyone would just read Ye Olde Blogge, they’d know (a) the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, (b) the ways the Ol’ Pussy Grabber manifests narcissism, (c) that anything that diminishes him is a narcissistic wound and must be destroyed immediately, and (d) the futility of trying to get him to behave in any way other than as a narcissist, so he won’t be dealing with anything.

It is almost farcical that after five years of this nonsense that we still have prominent members of the media, Congress, pundits, and WH aides all talking like the Ol’ Pussy Grabber will behave in any other way than as a narcissist. Are Putin and I and many of my astute readers the only people who know this?

But he’s fixated. Of course he’s fixated. The covfefevirus and the pandemic are narcissistic wounds to him. They expose him for the incompetent fraud that he is. They make him seem less than perfect, less than the very model of a modern stable genius.

A brief aside here: I’ve modeled the phrase, the very model of a modern stable genius off of the song, I am the very Model of a Modern Major General from the musical, The Pirates of Penzance by Gilbert and Sullivan. I thought I’d link to a version of the performance in the paragraph above, when to my surprise that I found two versions of the song adapted to I am the very Model of a Modern Stable Genius. One is by Randy Rainbow and the other by Chris Henson. I’ll give you the youtube videos of both below.

Watch the videos. They are both very clever and quite good. You’ll enjoy them. Go on. You know you want to. The brief aside is done.

Because these three crises — the pandemic, #BLM, and the economy — puncture his bloated facade of perfection, he is desperate to destroy them. But, how do you destroy a virus? How do you destroy a depression level unemployment rate? How do you destroy a long overdue social movement to finally disavow our racist past and our systemic racism?

He’s terrified to actually make a decision and actually lead because that exposes him to even more risk. If he’s “wrong,” his incompetence is even more obvious, and it makes it more difficult to blame anyone else. To preserve his turgid ego, he must minimize the seriousness of the pandemic and leave it up to the states to solve. If you understood his narcissism, you’d understand that.

In the extreme situation we find ourselves in and him holding the reins to the car, he has no choice — in his mind — but to cast himself as the blameless victim.

After five years of the Ol’ Pussy Grabber either running for office or paying pee-hookers to piss on the Resolute Desk, the Constitution, and American values in the Oval office, you’d think our college educated middle class white press would’ve figured it out. Let’s see how else the miss the boat in this particular article:

Trump has always exhibited a healthy ego and his self-victimization tendencies are not a new phenomenon, according to those who have known him over the years.Healthy ego? Really? That’s like describing some of his statements as racially insensitive or being uncertain whether a lie he’s told is a lie. He doesn’t have a healthy ego. He has a very unhealthy ego. Call it what it is, narcissism. You don’t have to be a licensed board-certified psychiatrist to use the term in the vernacular.

She [Barbra Res, former executive at the Trump Organization] added: “It was as if the world revolved around him. Everything that happened had an effect on him, good or bad.” Yesp, sounds like narcissism to me. You couldn’t identify it as such?

Now, however, Trump’s sense of victimhood strikes even some allies as particularly incongruous considering the devastation wrought by the pandemic and the pain and anguish apparent in Black Lives Matter protests. He’s a narcissist. We don’t matter to him. He can’t see anything other than through how it affects him personally. We’re all just here to bolster his ego, and we’re failing according to him.

Other top White House advisers — including Hope Hicks and Dan Scavino — have also sought to buttress Trump’s mood with events they thought he would enjoy, such as… creating social media videos that feature throngs of his adoring fans, according to aides. His aides get it whether they label it as such or not, but the idea of showing him videos of adoring fans just leaves me a little queasy. Does it you?

“That lack of accepting responsibility is seen as a lack of leadership and that doesn’t sit well with people who might be more open to supporting him again (Jen Psaki, former communications for President Obama).” He’s a narcissist. He’s never to blame. It’s always someone else’s fault. And, as he said in March, “I don’t accept any responsibility at all.” But, you can’t expect him to. He’s a narcissist. He can only play the victim, not the responsible adult.

[People are] describing him as shellshocked and sullen about his declining fortunes even as he continues to insist he will ultimately win in November. He’s a narcissist. He will always believe that victory is just around the corner. His delusion of grandeur will not allow him to accept reality, especially bad news. He will always rebound to that state of bloated perfect facade. It’s why he won’t resign or give up the White House without an ugly fight. He’s either the down in the dumps victim or he’s the soaring hero.

Trump simply keeps on repeating, “I had this great economy and they made me shut it down.” Of course, he believes he made the economy so great, he’s a narcissist. And, of course, they made him shut it down, he’s a victim.

…[The Ol’ Pussy Grabber] also railed about pollsters being out to get him and deliberately sampling the wrong voters… He will never accept that he has anything to do with his low poll numbers. It has to be the pollsters out to get him. He’s got to be the victim because he can’t be responsible. He’s a narcissist.

… [the Ol’ Pussy Grabber] complained he was being blamed for protests that he had nothing to do with. Again, he will never accept responsibility for the racially divisive rhetoric he uses to inflame the racial animus of the country, especially among his racist followers.

To some of his longtime advisers, the president has seemed tired, low-energy and lacking the passion and energy that defined him when he was a candidate during the 2016 race. This triple whammy of a narcissistic wound has proven tough to bounce back from. He’s left nursing his victimhood, but he will bounce back.

Despite his bouts of moroseness, Trump can also exhibit optimism not entirely grounded in reality. He has continued to tell advisers, for instance, that he is certain the virus will go away by October and that there will be a “cure” by then — a word he favors over “vaccine.”

Then, he adds in these tellings, the economy will rebound overnight and he will win a second term.

Now, that’s encouraging. His optimism is not rooted in reality. He indulges in magical thinking: the virus will go away in October, the economy will rebound overnight, he’ll win a second term.

It’ s dangerous to have someone as mentally unstable as the Ol’ Pussy Grabber is helming the shipwreck of state. Just like it was important throughout these past five years to call his lies lies and him a liar so we don’t normalize the distortions and the breakdown of our social norms, it is important to call him a narcissist and point out the narcissistic behaviors as they occur. His narcissistic delusion keeps him from responding to reality. And, we absolutely need leadership grounded in reality right now. We just aren’t going to get it from the Ol’ Pussy Grabber. All we’ll get is a whining victim.

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