Narcissistic Personality

He’s a NARCISSIST! It’s All You Need to Know, Part Infinity

Recently, there was an article published in The Washington Post about how the Ol’ Pussy Grabber is all drama queening it up in the Oval and going on long rants to anyone who will listen about how he is the VICTIM of all the nation’s troubles, but, especially, #COVID19! They act like it’s news or something. Narcissists always see themselves as victims. They are never responsible for anything, so anything bad that happens must be happening to them. They’re the victim.

Him! He’s the victim! He’s the victim of the pandemic and Black Lives Matter protests and the failing economy. It is all happening to him.

He’s all Woe is me! What can I do? Nothing! I didn’t ask for this. How can they expect me to solve all of their problems? If they would just LISTEN to me, everything would be fine. They’re only making a big deal out of the 136,000+ dead and 3.2 million infections to spite me. People die everyday! Is it my fault that they do? People get the flu everyday. How is this any different? Why can’t people see the genius of me? Why can’t they just get back to their jobs and schools? Woe, woe is me!

I like their phrasing, though, The [Ol’ Pussy Grabber] has cast himself in the starring role of blameless victim of a deadly pandemic, of a stalled economy, of deep-seated racial unrest, all of which happened to him rather than the country.

And, you’re surprised? L’etat c’est moi, anyone?

They’re all saying, you’ve got to snap out of it. He’s a narcissistic. You don’t snap out of narcissistic personality disorder. If everyone would just read Ye Olde Blogge, they’d know (a) the symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, (b) the ways the Ol’ Pussy Grabber manifests narcissism, (c) that anything that diminishes him is a narcissistic wound and must be destroyed immediately, and (d) the futility of trying to get him to behave in any way other than as a narcissist, so he won’t be dealing with anything.

It is almost farcical that after five years of this nonsense that we still have prominent members of the media, Congress, pundits, and WH aides all talking like the Ol’ Pussy Grabber will behave in any other way than as a narcissist. Are Putin and I and many of my astute readers the only people who know this?

But he’s fixated. Of course he’s fixated. The covfefevirus and the pandemic are narcissistic wounds to him. They expose him for the incompetent fraud that he is. They make him seem less than perfect, less than the very model of a modern stable genius.

A brief aside here: I’ve modeled the phrase, the very model of a modern stable genius off of the song, I am the very Model of a Modern Major General from the musical, The Pirates of Penzance by Gilbert and Sullivan. I thought I’d link to a version of the performance in the paragraph above, when to my surprise that I found two versions of the song adapted to I am the very Model of a Modern Stable Genius. One is by Randy Rainbow and the other by Chris Henson. I’ll give you the youtube videos of both below.

Go ahead and watch it! You know you want to.
Watch it! It’s good.

Watch the videos. They are both very clever and quite good. You’ll enjoy them. Go on. You know you want to. The brief aside is done.

Because these three crises — the pandemic, #BLM, and the economy — puncture his bloated facade of perfection, he is desperate to destroy them. But, how do you destroy a virus? How do you destroy a depression level unemployment rate? How do you destroy a long overdue social movement to finally disavow our racist past and our systemic racism?

He’s terrified to actually make a decision and actually lead because that exposes him to even more risk. If he’s “wrong,” his incompetence is even more obvious, and it makes it more difficult to blame anyone else. To preserve his turgid ego, he must minimize the seriousness of the pandemic and leave it up to the states to solve. If you understood his narcissism, you’d understand that.

In the extreme situation we find ourselves in and him holding the reins to the car, he has no choice — in his mind — but to cast himself as the blameless victim.

After five years of the Ol’ Pussy Grabber either running for office or paying pee-hookers to piss on the Resolute Desk, the Constitution, and American values in the Oval office, you’d think our college educated middle class white press would’ve figured it out. Let’s see how else the miss the boat in this particular article:

Trump has always exhibited a healthy ego and his self-victimization tendencies are not a new phenomenon, according to those who have known him over the years.Healthy ego? Really? That’s like describing some of his statements as racially insensitive or being uncertain whether a lie he’s told is a lie. He doesn’t have a healthy ego. He has a very unhealthy ego. Call it what it is, narcissism. You don’t have to be a licensed board-certified psychiatrist to use the term in the vernacular.

She [Barbra Res, former executive at the Trump Organization] added: “It was as if the world revolved around him. Everything that happened had an effect on him, good or bad.” Yesp, sounds like narcissism to me. You couldn’t identify it as such?

Now, however, Trump’s sense of victimhood strikes even some allies as particularly incongruous considering the devastation wrought by the pandemic and the pain and anguish apparent in Black Lives Matter protests. He’s a narcissist. We don’t matter to him. He can’t see anything other than through how it affects him personally. We’re all just here to bolster his ego, and we’re failing according to him.

Other top White House advisers — including Hope Hicks and Dan Scavino — have also sought to buttress Trump’s mood with events they thought he would enjoy, such as… creating social media videos that feature throngs of his adoring fans, according to aides. His aides get it whether they label it as such or not, but the idea of showing him videos of adoring fans just leaves me a little queasy. Does it you?

That lack of accepting responsibility is seen as a lack of leadership and that doesn’t sit well with people who might be more open to supporting him again (Jen Psaki, former communications for President Obama).” He’s a narcissist. He’s never to blame. It’s always someone else’s fault. And, as he said in March, “I don’t accept any responsibility at all.” But, you can’t expect him to. He’s a narcissist. He can only play the victim, not the responsible adult.

[People are] describing him as shellshocked and sullen about his declining fortunes even as he continues to insist he will ultimately win in November. He’s a narcissist. He will always believe that victory is just around the corner. His delusion of grandeur will not allow him to accept reality, especially bad news. He will always rebound to that state of bloated perfect facade. It’s why he won’t resign or give up the White House without an ugly fight. He’s either the down in the dumps victim or he’s the soaring hero.

Trump simply keeps on repeating, “I had this great economy and they made me shut it down.” Of course, he believes he made the economy so great, he’s a narcissist. And, of course, they made him shut it down, he’s a victim.

…[The Ol’ Pussy Grabber] also railed about pollsters being out to get him and deliberately sampling the wrong voters… He will never accept that he has anything to do with his low poll numbers. It has to be the pollsters out to get him. He’s got to be the victim because he can’t be responsible. He’s a narcissist.

… [the Ol’ Pussy Grabber] complained he was being blamed for protests that he had nothing to do with. Again, he will never accept responsibility for the racially divisive rhetoric he uses to inflame the racial animus of the country, especially among his racist followers.

To some of his longtime advisers, the president has seemed tired, low-energy and lacking the passion and energy that defined him when he was a candidate during the 2016 race. This triple whammy of a narcissistic wound has proven tough to bounce back from. He’s left nursing his victimhood, but he will bounce back.

Despite his bouts of moroseness, Trump can also exhibit optimism not entirely grounded in reality. He has continued to tell advisers, for instance, that he is certain the virus will go away by October and that there will be a “cure” by then — a word he favors over “vaccine.

Then, he adds in these tellings, the economy will rebound overnight and he will win a second term.

Now, that’s encouraging. His optimism is not rooted in reality. He indulges in magical thinking: the virus will go away in October, the economy will rebound overnight, he’ll win a second term.

It’ s dangerous to have someone as mentally unstable as the Ol’ Pussy Grabber is helming the shipwreck of state. Just like it was important throughout these past five years to call his lies lies and him a liar so we don’t normalize the distortions and the breakdown of our social norms, it is important to call him a narcissist and point out the narcissistic behaviors as they occur. His narcissistic delusion keeps him from responding to reality. And, we absolutely need leadership grounded in reality right now. We just aren’t going to get it from the Ol’ Pussy Grabber. All we’ll get is a whining victim.

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“drama queen” by nchoz is licensed under CC BY-NC 2.0

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  1. He is what he is and that’s all what he is. He’s Drumpy the victim man.

    In my pre-teen years I wore out two copies of The Mikado and one of HMS Pinafore, so any reworking of a G&S patter song (I can still do most of “When I Was A Lad” from memory) is welcome. Some clever person could maybe do a version of “Love Unrequited” ( the nightmare song) from Iolanthe.

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    • Howdy Bob!
      Both versions were quite clever and entertaining. I was just happy to have my observation of the similar cadence verified. I’m not quite wordsmith enough to actually have adapted the song so completely.

      The few poems I was required to memorize and recite in school stay with me still. It amazes me how verse (rhyme and meter) aide in memory. I just finished reading, “The Shallows: What the Internet is doing to our Brains,” and Nicolas Carr goes through a lengthy review of communications technology starting with the oral tradition. I hadn’t realized that they used repeated phrasing, rhyme, and meter as memory aides. It will change how I teach certain things next year. Oh, my poor students!


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      • The use of rhyme and meter as memory aids goes back into the far mists of time. All os the great cultural epics, scriptures, and myths began as oral tradition. Imagine trying to memorize The Iliad, Genesis, or the Mahābhārata in any form but poetry and song.

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        • Howdy Bob!
          One of the courses I teach is IB psychology which requires the kids to memorize a large number of details of a lot of studies. I’ll try to set a study to a meter and rhyme scheme. One of the most successful assignments is getting your students to write a poem or song using a set of material. They hate it, but they remember it forever. I had a student write to me once four years after the course finished telling me that they got questions right on an exam about neural transmission because I had them perform a skit about neural transmission. Of course, at the time, they hated it and complained about it, but it worked. I don’t know why I’ve talked myself out of using those types of assignments.

          Anywho, it is just more fuel for the fire.


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          • Those methods do sound very effective. I wonder whether really hating an assignment in and of itself actually improves retention. I once had an unforgettable lesson in active and passive verbs from a Geology Prof. In a test answer, I described a glacier as “sitting” on some place. The comment on the paper was, “On its haunches?”. That was in 1964.

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            • Howdy Bob!
              Emotional intensity of an experience correlates with the strength of the memory that is formed of it. Unfortunately, stress hormones and neurotransmitters prevent memories from forming, so hating something could actually work against it depending on how stressed the student is. The fun inherent in working in a well formed group — something they don’t stress in how to be a teacher school — can actually help with the formation of those memories. You’re having fun — not so stressed — and focused on details and the product (rhyming metered phrasing) combine to produce stronger memories, or, at least, that’s the theory.

              I don’t think we demand the precision of language that we once did, do you? Otherwise, as a teacher, you never know what will stand out for a student.


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