Narcissistic Personality

He’s a NARCISSIST: How will Trump Leave Office?

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During the last six months or so it has been gratifying to hear pundits on the pundit circuit making allusions to Trump’s narcissism usually by mentioning that he only cares about himself, which is the most milquetoast interpretation of narcissism ever. They clearly haven’t been reading Ye Olde Blogge or they would know the ins and outs of narcissism by now and how they make narcissists, particularly the Ol’ Pussy Grabber, extremely predictable.

It seems like instead of Ye Olde Blogge, they read this dog from Salon, What happens when a narcissist loses? Expect “rage” and “terror,” psychologists warn. Essentially, all it said is that he’s going to be mad and act out. Great. We can do better than that because we know two things: (1) Losing the election is the most significant narcissistic injury that Trump has ever experienced and (2) narcissists use specific coping mechanisms to comfort themselves once the narcissistic injury has activated their shame.

What is a Narcissist?

Essentially, a narcissist is a core of shame so dense that it is approaching critical mass and threatening to implode creating an emotional black hole where their soul should be wrapped in an overinflated Mylar sheath of delusional perfection. Their life is spent trying to keep themselves distracted from their feelings of shame by promoting their delusion of perfection.

It’s a no win situation, though, because (a) no one is perfect so there are bound to be unavoidable instances that demonstrate the narcissist’s fallibility. And (2) it’s like they’re juggling burning cats wielding chainsaws; they are working so hard trying to maintain their facade that they cannot do anything else leading to more undeniable failures.

Narcissists, by definition, live in a fantasy of their own own success, power, brilliance, beauty. They don’t deal with reality because in reality no one is perfect. Their job is to draw everyone around them into their fantasy or, put another way, to foist their pathology onto the rest of us.

What is a Narcissistic Wound?

Losing the election is the undeniable intrusion of reality onto this cozy little dream of being the most loved person in the history of human kind. Any intrusion on the veil of superiority reminds of them of their shame and is termed a narcissistic wound. What is an Ol’ Pussy Grabber to do?

He relies on a tried and true combination of so-called coping mechanisms to soothe their fraught feelings of shame and distract himself from his fears and anxieties of his inadequacies. We’ve seen these coping mechanisms on parade across the bully pulpit the past four years: lying, jactation, wishful thinking, splitting, victimhood. Are any of these going to soothe the gigantic narcissistic wound of losing the election? Let’s see.

Lying, Jactation, and Wishful Thinking

The Ol’ Pussy Grabber has made the piteous claim that “I WON THIS ELECTION, BY A LOT!” on Twitter, which hung the disclaimer that it may not be true and probably isn’t on it. Lying, jactation, and wishful thinking aren’t going to work. You can’t win an election by pretending that you have. To paraphrase, President Obama, Reality has a way of biting you in the ass. Right about now, I imagine that fat flabby orange ass is feeling pretty darn sore, don’t you?


He did his best to split us by pitting groups of Americans against each other. The country is divided, but his supporters have not come out to protest in the streets like the #Resistance has. He has goaded them ever more explicitly towards violence, but, luckily, as it turns out, the Proud Boys are a bunch of wussies who prefer bullying to actually doing anything and taking violent risks. So, that ain’t working for him.


He is peddling conspiracy theories on Twitter and to all who will listen about how the election has been some how stolen. So far all it’s gotten him is the untrue Twitter filter, court cases dismissed by judges, and a legal team press conference at the Four Seasons Landscaping company between a sex paraphernalia shop and a crematorium in Philadelphia. So, the victim card ain’t playing big dividends, especially with those who count, his radically unqualified Repube judges.

Rage, Revenge, and Vindictiveness

That leaves us with rage, revenge, and vindictiveness. The old stand by. The narcissistic wound causes emotional decompensation, the familiar toddler meltdown that we’ve grown accustom to seeing from the Ol’ Pussy Grabber, or being out of control. The Ol’ Pussy Grabber starts out ceding any control due to his executive dysfunction, but when the narcissistic wound is activated there is no control.

If you thought his impulsive angry sadistic behaviors were bad in the past, you ain’t seen nothing yet because nothing in the past four years compares to the severity of losing the election. The closest we came was impeachment. and we saw what that wrought: solicitation of Ukraine’s government in framing Biden and trumping up investigations into the investigators, i.e. the Mueller probe and specific FBI agents.

Even thought both resulted in zilch-o, they were both highly destructive acts. The FBI, DoJ, and the intelligence community have both been significantly damaged because of them. Our ability to protect our country from malign foreign influence has been degraded and we’ve suffered for it even if we don’t know exactly how yet.

All of his darkest most destructive actions like caging children, separating them from their parents, and being unable to rejoin them, his inaction on #COVID19, the tariffs, or environmental degradation have all been done to prove his power and brilliance to himself.

His superspreader campaign events have fed his ego while wrecking his vengeance on the suckers and losers who support him but leaving him lagging in the polls. An AP analysis of the #COVID19 surge found that 93% of the 376 counties with highest per capita cases voted for the Ol’ Pussy Grabber. If he was willing to kill his supporters, literally, for not giving him polling leads, what will he be willing to do to them and the rest of us for having lost the election?

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What Might He Do?

The Ol’ Pussy Grabber’s response so far has been to rage tweet in ALL CAPS, address the nation with fact-free claims of voter fraud and malfeasance, and making hysterical demands for magical legal solutions to his electoral problems and threatening to replace his lawyers when they don’t materialize.

So what might he do? His efforts to have the Biden’s investigated on fabricated charges of doing something illegal in Ukraine and China have fizzled in a pool of Giuliani drool. This response is analogous to the post-impeachment Ukraine ploy. He’s urged criminal investigations of elections officials by the DoJ a la his investigation of the investigators. It’s turned out about as well, especially since Bill Barr-the-Door has been AWOL of late. The other ways he has harmed the country have been through incompetence and neglect — #COVID19 and having no plan to return children to their parents, for example.

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What do these efforts at revenge and retribution have in common? They are legally based, other people do most of the dirty work, and they are not physical. He is a coward and will not risk injury or pain. If they go wrong, he can blame other people as we’ve seen him do numerous times.

When things go awry, it constitutes a narcissistic wound. He pre-copes with it by setting up others to take the fall like he did with the state governors for #COVID19, for example, and all the claims not to know key people in scandals.

You’re likely to see the same here. He’s likely to slink away to Mar-a-Lago to scheme believing he is on the cusp of victory and that an exception to the rules of succession will be made for him but otherwise he’ll quit pretending to president and waste his free time golfing, ranting on Twitter, calling into to increasingly obscure right-wing media outlets, and maybe having a superspreader event when he needs an adulation fix. The prospect of being drug out of the WH would be another narcissistic wound that he would prefer to avoid.

I think he will start the fade next week. I think, he travels between his resorts milking the government for the last amounts of money, he can, and just doesn’t ever go back to his day job. Not that he ever did much with it any way.

But, don’t let me hog all the prognosticating fun! Give us your thoughts and predictions in the comments!

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  1. Hey Jack:

    I want to thank you for giving me the idea for the postcard send out. I distributed hundreds of handwritten postcards to Arizonians on November 21. Mike Pompeo said today that there will be a smooth transition to a second Trump term. What do you think about that?

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    • Howdy James!

      Thank you for not only sending the postcards, but for letting us know that you did. And, Arizona has turned into a consequential state. And, thank you for your observations of the differences between rural and urban areas. They turned out to be prescient as well.

      It is one thing for me or you or some yahoo on Twitter to make such a joke, but for the Secretary of State to say such a thing is highly irresponsible and done only for the gratification of Trump’s bruised ego. The problem with leaders making such jokes is that people will take them seriously and act on them. They’ve already gotten people killed an injured with such remarks. We don’t need any more. Completely, irresponsible and contributes to our current atmosphere of conflict. Very disappointing.



  2. This is my celebration tune I’ve played over and over yesterday and today!!! I think it is SO apropos! Wouldn’t you agree CalicoJack? 😉

    Sing Ob La Di, Ob La Da, life goes on…
    So BA, BA, BA, BA, BA… BYE BYE! 😁

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    • Yes! Yes! I would agree! It goes perfectly with my election week drink:
      2 oz Maker’s Mark whisky
      tamarind juice
      soda or tonic water
      lime and honey to taste
      I call it either the 2020 Election Julep or Mekong Mud.

      I’ll be humming Ob La Di, Ob La Da for the rest of the election!

      Thank you, professor!


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      • 🤣 That sounds like a FINE libation of Biden/Harris spirits of HUMAN DECENCY!!! Well done CalicoJack, very well done Sir!

        Cheers to you, our return to the rest of the normal world, and MORE critically… in sincere sorrow to all those families of now approaching 250,000 needlessly dead Americans of COVID-19. I do not want to and cannot forget this… such a waste of lives while our current (fake) President plays golf. 😠

        HUZZAH!!! Decency has won out! 🙂

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        • This election really does reaffirm that democracy is part of the deep American culture. At least, the one-person, one-vote thing goes. The compromise is the heart of democracy part hasn’t. But, more Americans voted for decency in the White House and that is something to be grateful for and a huge sigh of relief.

          The past few days have been quite delightful making me, for the first time in 25 years, wish that I was residing in the States. But, social media does provide a decent facsimile of in person participation.


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          • Well, “the one-person, one-vote thing” is highly controversial and still quite debatable today (for good reasons) all because of the SCOTUS landmark decision in 2010: Citizens United vs. FEC. That threw open the floodgates for immeasurable billions of dollars to heavily influence (dictate?) an already gullible American populace who still average only a high school diploma (or GED) or only barely 2-years of under-grad university studies. 😔

            Couldn’t agree with you more about the majority of Americans (Moderates in many ways) did INDEED vote for decency. And that is a HUGE victory and offers much hope for healing. ❤️

            Oh! You are not homeside? Where are you CalicoJack!? Very curious! I’ve lived (played pro futebol/soccer) on 4 of our inhabitable continents. I cherish gratefully my years around the world! I’m sure I am a Marco Polo reborn in this life. So my new blogging friend…. SPILL IT! Where are you now and why? 🙂

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            • Howdy Professor!

              A professional football player? Well that wins more cool points than mine. I’m an international school teacher. My wife and I teach the children of diplomats, NGO workers, and corporate officers. I teach secondary social studies and she teaches upper elementary. We, too, have lived and worked on four of our seven continents. Hopefully, will add at least a sixth before it is over. We’ve taught in South Korea, Viet Nam, Kenya, China, and, now, Cambodia over the past 20+ years. It has been terrific fun.

              Where’d you play? All of those countries have pro-leagues.


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              • Oh wow Jack! World travelers you two are! That is fantastic! And it is quite ironic that you teach Social Studies! That was my favorite subject teaching Special Ed at a charter school with Wards of the State students. I loved, loved, LOVED teaching them, teaching that subject (along with Science 2nd) I loved most, and of course the rewards of helping badly disadvantaged kids (5th thru 8th graders; yes, all four grades at the same time) from horrible family-living circumstances. Jack, I bet you are a GREAT teacher, especially with a psych background, like me. 😉 hehehe

                Do not teach them WHAT to think. Teach them HOW to think. Yes?

                And Jack, have you ever seen the phenomenal 2011 film That’s What I Am starring Ed Harris, Chase Ellison, and Amy Madigan? It is one of my all-time favorite films for many reasons, but most of all because of the topics the film addresses in our public schools in the U.S. 🙂

                Where’d you play? All of those countries have pro-leagues.

                After a very successful collegiate career my first club was São Cristóvão de Futebol e Regatas in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil, followed 3-months later with Fluminense FC also in Rio de Janeiro. Due to a couple of injuries and a fiance back home in the States, I was picked up by Mighty Blackpool in Freetown, Sierra Leone, West Africa. Then a couple of months later with Black Star in Monrovia, Liberia, West Africa. The movement there in W. Africa in the late 80’s into 1990 leading up to the outbreak of civil wars there (1991 – 2002) forced me out really, being American it wasn’t safe… to say the least! 😄

                Now all during high school and in summer months in collegiate offseasons (amateur status) I/we traveled to Europe to train for 2-months: England, Belgium, Holland, Germany, Austria, one week in the Czech Republic (when those W. African clubs noticed me), and twice also down to Brasil, Rio, São Paulo, and Santos when my two eventual clubs there noticed me and wanted to sign me right then and there.

                It was some marvelous years for me Jack that I will gratefully cherish my whole life. 🙂

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                • Man, I loved Africa and was disappointed not to get jobs in Cameron and Angola last year when we got the job in Cambodia. Cambodia is wonderful, though. I LOVE Cambodia even more than Viet Nam. It is like the best of Thailand and Viet Nam together. But, Kenya is my absolute favorite country to have lived in.

                  Teaching is the best way to see the world. You get the best in terms of salary, job security, and choice of where you’ll end up and when.

                  Both my daughter and I are autistic. I didn’t realize until she was diagnosed ten years ago. She has taught me a lot about teaching to all students in my class and what can be accomplished when our learning needs and differences are accommodated. I’ve been type cast as a high school psychology teacher (IB Psychology) which has limited some of my options. If I had my druthers, I’d teach middle school, early years (love those kids), or special needs. I keep trying to convince people that I love teaching and not necessarily the content. Although, I love teaching psychology. It is wicked fun if you do it “right.” All you need to do is wind them up and get out of the way. Teenagers are way too into navel gazing for it to be any other way. But, really I’m happy to teach anything because I love teaching because at its core teaching is about relationship: your relationship with individual students, with the class, with your peers, with your parents, with your learning community.

                  I started out teaching ELA in South Korea in 1996 — best gig in the world once I got a university position — and realized almost immediately that its you and not the place so much. If you’re depressed, you’ll be depressed at home or abroad. If you’re happy, same. Whatever it is that’s how you’ll experience it.

                  The blog has been a godsend. It really helps me process the psychology and our politics. It gives me a creative out let, too. I’m really hoping to grow it into a full-time income. It’s getting there. Truth be told, though, I’m worried about a post-Trump readership, though. To be honest, Trump has made it all easy.


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                  • All you need to do is wind them up and get out of the way.

                    HAH! That is SO TRUE Jack! Give them a clever riddle or (near) double-bind question that makes them THINK, and man they are like the Energizer Bunny, aren’t they!? 😄

                    Oh Jack, some of my most inquisitive students were Autistic. I had one particular student who had Asperger’s and when we both found out how much we BOTH loved WW2 military aircraft—in particular the North American P-51 Mustang (with the Rolls-Royse Merlin engine) and the Supermarine Spitfire, OMG Jack… he totally AMAZED ME how he could rattle-off all the technical specs of the P-51 engine and performance! He loved talking to me about all the planes of Europe and the Pacific. He blew me away how well he knew all the numbers, facts, Aces of both theaters… it was just delightful talking with him after class and school; he’d always come by my room to talk WW2 aircraft. 😍

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                    • Howdy Professor!

                      Bless. Believe me that kid needed someone who was willing to talk with him. Not everyone gets that opportunity.

                      I had a friend in high school that all about WWII tanks. He knew all the specs of every tank produced during the war.

                      I’ve really grown to appreciate autistic kids over the years. They have a lot to contribute.


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                    • Jack… I could not agree MORE with you! They have a TON to offer, their entire life!!! If anything, it would be to teach us “normal” ignorant human beings, huh? 😉

                      Diversity is the BEST enigma to human progress! We should embrace it always!

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  3. How many “Rightful Presidents In Exile” have we seen around the world in our lifetimes? If I was ever trying to keep a count, I’ve lost the tally. Russians with “ties to the Kremlin” interviewed in the last few days have sounded “done with Trump”, so he would not be likely to be given a Dacha up to his standards of luxury. That Saudi prince has every right to be severely out of sorts with him for losing. I doubt at among the Europeans, even Victor Orban would find him useful. Maybe his good buddy Mr. Kim would enjoy a house guest?

    If his brand loses its golden luster around the world, a number of projects with his name on them will be taking it off and not paying him for the use of it. The owners and developers might be thinking about filing suit in their own courts for the loss of value.

    Donald Trump bet the farm on cashing in on the Presidency in perpetuity. The dice aren’t rolling right.

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    • Howdy Bob!

      The narcissistic delusion rarely pays off in the long run. And, doubly for Trump who lacks the executive functioning — as do his children, especially Don-Don, I surmise — to successfully find some way of being an ex-president paying off. They don’t have the ability to start a media empire and Bannon is too much of a narcissist himself to collaborate on such a large project. Maybe other gold diggers and Johnny-come-latelies will, but it will go about as well as the his administration did. The Trumps just don’t have the mentality to work in as complex and large an organization that a media enterprise would require. Also, they are too felonious to ever survive the scrutiny that such an endeavor would bring.

      The only interest that governments would have in him would be due to what he can either do for them — state secrets — or not do — spilling their joint secrets. Again, Trump’s narcissism and executive dysfunction makes this difficult to do. Ex-dictators who are hosted by friendly governments are supposed to live quietly in their retirement. The incentive for the hosting government is, in part, ending the horrific rule of the dictator without too much bloodshed.

      I’m increasingly convinced that the end game for Trump will involve some kind of negotiation trading his stepping aside for avoidance of prosecution like we did with Agnew and then Nixon. It will require Congressional and cabinet Republicans that Trump trusts to step in and play a role. Who knows if any of those idiots actually have the foresight to get it done.

      It will probably require someone on Biden’s team to work it from behind the scenes. They’ll have to put in all of this unseen work to save the GOP from Trump just so they can be shrill anti-democratic obstructionists for the next two years.


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      • It is hard to think of who could get through to him on that. If it was somebody on the Biden team, they might begin by working through Jared K.. When it come to the heirs, he seems to be the most functional, evil, but functional and (so far) trusted.

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        • But Jared is only just barely functional. Christ the man is a menace and a good example of how the rich can fail upward in perpetuity.

          Given Biden’s experience in the Senate and the Obama admin, he might could go through Pence or Graham, too.


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          • They would be good choices IF Trump has a modicum of trust in them. He may very well see Pence as after his job (which he is), and Graham is also looking toward 2024. It helps to remember that Trump has seen himself as the inevitable President For Life, so anybody else with Presidential hopes is a threat.

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    • Howdy Gareth!

      If you think Trump is leaving the country if he loses — he might, actually due to financial and legal issues — you shouldn’t be buying waterfront property in Florida.

      Since he’s dead broke and in debt for up to a billion dollars and he has only built transactional relationships, as soon as he cannot deliver something of value, no one is going to help him. Otherwise, he’ll be selling state secrets, if he can remember them or think to record them. We’ll see how the intelligence community handles that one.



      • Notes? He doesn’t need notes. He has the best brain.
        I doubt any country would want state secrets from him. His kids, maybe, if they were paying attention beyond the bank account.
        But Dump? I think every world leader knows he’s a moron and can’t remember what he’s been told by advisors because he won’t ever listen in the first place. Every intelligence service would laugh their asses off if one of their operatives said “I got Trump as my source” for some classified info.

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        • Howdy Tally!

          What’s the old saying, “You’ve made your bed, now lie in it.” Trump has sealed his fate by making every relationship transactional and being too narcissistic to learn. Now, that’s funny. Narcissism and his daddy’s fortune helped him fail upward to the highest office in the world, and now it will ensure his absolute failure.


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