Dark Tetrad

Is Your Average Conservative an Everyday Sadist?

The gaslighting emanating from the Ol’ Pussy Grabber’s ass has really taken all of the oxygen out of the room making it nearly impossible for any of us to remain and for those few who do remain to do anything at all for all the choking, gagging, tearing up, and dripping noses. That is by design. It distracts from and numbs your reaction to the train wreck that the United Fucking States of Fucking Stupid is becoming.

The New Cruelty

One of the most salient features of the Ol’ Pussy Grabber’s America is its rampant sadism. Dig it. these examples are just from the past week:

And that’s not counting the ongoing agonizing saga of families separated at the border so that private prison barons can make up for declining federal incarceration rates, the inaction on opioid overdoses, and the suicide pandemic, and the untold other ways big and small that the incompetence and downright mean spiritedness of the admin is inflicting pain and suffering on its citizens mostly so we can squeeze a few more tax dollars into the massive transfer of wealth from the middle class to the rich or make the Ol’ Pussy Grabber and his peers a few more bucks.

After all, it does seem to the the view of most Repubes in office that the role of government is transfer as much wealth as possible up the socioeconomic ladder before the economy collapses and Dems are overwhelmingly elected and have to fix the economy — AGAIN — over the kicking and screaming objections of the remaining Repubes in office. Of course, this next round of the fun game will be further enhanced by the federal judiciary packed with Repube appointees who will be following the conservative mantra rather than a recognizable or defensible interpretation of the Constitution.

Feel free to put other examples of the inhumane sadism that it is endemic of the New Cruelty inherent in this Repube reign of wretchedness.

Sadism & Everyday Sadism

These are the things that are easy to follow in the popular press, but what I’m concerned about is the everyday sadism between citizens or rather from smug Christian conservative citizens to the rest of us but mostly to the recognizable brown Other that is being promoted by the administration.

Sadism, of course, is the enjoyment of pain as experienced in others. These others can be the Other, but it is not limited to brown people because we are an equal opportunity sadistic nation now. We can inflict pain and suffering on animals, the elderly, the sick and dying, small poor children, non-citizens (especially brown non-citizens), women, the LGBTQ+ community, religious minorities, and other groups who cannot adequately defend themselves and are easily identifiable.



Since the fish rots from the head down, and no one is spouting more racist and sadistic tripe than the Ol’ Pussy Grabber, the rank and defiled are declaring open season. The dramatic acts that inflict pain and suffering like Robert Chain of Encino, California who was arrested recently for threatening to kill the enemy of the people at the Boston Globe or the racist robocalls that were inflicted on the Florida electorate against Andrew Gillum the black candidate for governor are not everyday sadism, but large sadistic acts inspired by the Ol’ Pussy Grabber’s open racist anti-press anti-democratic authoritarian rhetoric.

Rather I’m concerned about everyday sadism or the tendency to inflict small amounts of pain and discomfort on those around us. They don’t necessarily like to see people writing in pain and humiliation, they just like the helplessness, the fear, worry, or concern that they can inflict on others. They do it for the lulz, the gotcha, the ego boost.

Everyday Sadism

Everyday sadism is the primary trait of most online trolls. Everybody has experience with online trolls. Those are the people who start a social media fight and keep moving the goal post to keep you engaged. Those are the people who like to tell liberals about their guns and dox people they disagree with. Those are the people who SWAT others.

Sadism is often tied up with sex and crime and other extreme forms. It is as often physical as mental, and just might could have some evolutionary purpose. After all, sadism has occurred across time and cultures. In contrast everyday sadism is less about the extremes and more about the mundane, less about physical pain, although their are those who shove just a little too hard in crowds or accidentally step on toes, and more about emotional pain.

But the thing that sadists and everyday sadists have in common is callousness. They just don’t give a rat’s ass about what you’re feeling except that it brings them some modicum of sick pleasure.

Examples of Everyday Sadism

Here’s a prime example of something you see everyday on your social media feeds:

What the fuck just happened there? Was that guy assaulting that teenager and pinning him to the subway seat? And when asked to desist from the assault whined that the interceders should make the teenager stop playing his music loudly? What? I don’t like intrusive loud music, either, but that’s the culture we’ve got. Another piece of culture we’ve got is a prohibition on assaulting one another. So, you know, what the fuck brother white dude?

So, how is this everyday sadism? He is trying to physically intimidate this black teenager into changing his behavior. He is trying to cause the black teenager to be so frightened of white people that he won’t risk offending them again by being overtly black.

The “Immigration Lawyer”

Another example making the social media rounds is the lovely psychologist who was the executive director of a San Francisco Bay Area mental health clinic coming down off her stoop to claim to be an immigration lawyer so she could scare some scary Spanish speaking browns away from her house.Really? An immigration lawyer? Those people who flocked to airports around the country in the bad old days of the first and second Muslim bans to help people defend themselves from overly aggressive and intrusive customs and border agents? She’s trying to scare them by pretending that immigration lawyers will try to have them deported for parking on a public street in front of her house? Wat da fuck?

If you haven’t seen the video that has gone viral across several social media platforms, you can watch it here at this link: Oakland Woman Claims to be Immigration Lawyer to scare Spanish-Speaking Family from Now This.

How is this ill advised ploy everyday sadism? She is trying to frighten a Hispanic family into parking in front of her neighbor’s house, I guess, by intimidating them with not only an implied threat of deportation but by opening their car doors! What? There’s a mild physical threat there, too. She’s trying to cause them to be frightened of white people so they won’t go around being brown in white neighborhoods.

Fuck’s sake, though, karma’s a bitch, amiright? She was forced to resign from her position as executive director of the East Bay Family Institute of Oakland, an institution she founded — FOUNDED — to provide mental health services for the IMMIGRANT COMMUNITY? White lady done lost her head listening to all them racist dog whistles. The Ol’ Pussy Grabber done whistled up the racist hidden down in her soul and she paid a price for it.

Bullying the Algonquin Guy

And then there is this brave little guy crossing my twitter feed. But, bullying only happens in schools when adults tolerate it and ignore it.

So what is the everyday sadism here? The bullies literally want to see him cry and be afraid. It is some of the cruelest because being exposed day after day to the same bullying can erode any emotional well-being a child has.

The adults that permit it to happen are just as guilty of being everyday sadists. They know better but rationalize their non-response away or join in in somewhat more subtle ways. It is a cruelty inflicted on another for the enjoyment of the perpetrator and those who could stop it if they wanted.

No Bathroom for YOU!

And then there is this gem of everyday sadism occurring, apparently, every school day in this woman’s classroom.

To deny an eighth grader, especially the girls who, if Mrs. White didn’t know it, have their periods and might not be able to limit themselves to just two passes a month, the ability to go to the bathroom or the nurse is just punishing children for no good reason.

I am a classroom teacher. I teach eighth grade. There are students that as soon as you say it is time to do some hard work in class, they’re off to the bathroom or nurse. When that happens, I  point out that it is a pattern and tell them to start the work and if they find they still need to go or just cannot wait, then they may. Once you point out the pattern, I’ve never had a kid continue to abuse the privilege.

There is no way another human being can know whether someone HAS to go to the bathroom or not. We all have emergencies. We all have differing abilities to control and sense our bodies. And, to deny a student a trip to the nurse, is outrageous. How could she possibly know whether a student really needs to see the nurse or not? Just a woman who is enjoying controlling others and watching them suffer as they try to comply with her ridiculous rules.

As our society is led down that callous path by the Ol’ Pussy Grabber who as a malignant narcissist regularly and frequently violates the civil and human rights of those around him, who fights to maintain his political support by appealing to the baser instincts of his supporters, dividing us, and sowing hate, who in his attempts to control those around him does not hesitate to lie and gaslight.

One of the greatest harms that the current version of the Repubes and the Ol’ Pussy Grabber is inflicting on us is encouraging the everyday sadists to treat everyone around them just a little worse.

Stand up and fight back.

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    • Howdy Bob!

      That idea goes back to the Calvinist belief of god showing his love by bestowing worldly riches. No one thinks of it that way, but it is the basis for our cultural reaction to being poor as a reflection of personal failure. This dovetails nicely with the fundamental attribution error which states that errors, mistakes, blunders, and other mishaps are due to personality flaws. FAE is not a cross-cultural phenomenon. It is restricted to Northern European descendants. Undoubtedly the two are tied together.


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      • I would send those preachers back to read “Job”, wherein it is clear that bad things do happen to good people. Once you accept the idea that the universe is (a) invariably just, and (b) actually give a dam what humans do, then the rest follows. Somehow, Christian Protestant theology managed to dispense with the Trickster character found in virtually every other mythology, the random luck element in real life.

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        • Howdy Bob!

          I like that point: Christianity has done away with the Trickster character. It’s like Christians have lost their sense of humor. I wonder if the other two, Judaism and Islam have as well. If I had any more time – insanely busy at the moment – I’d try to find the moment when it was lost.

          That’s interesting.


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          • I don’t think Judaism gave it up completely. Lucifer plays something of that role in his debate with God about mortal faith in “Job”, hooking the boss by His pride. Typically, neither of them ever apologizes to poor old Job. That’s more than a bit narcissistic of them.

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            • Howdy Bob!

              I was thinking last night about the garden of Eden and the snake. In some ways the snake is the Trickster. The Trickster in other religions is less evil and more chaotic. Evil is usually embodied — if it is singled out at all — by some other sinister being. It could be in the dichotomy that Christianity created there was no room for chaos. Good and order were lumped together, and bad and chaos were lumped together.

              We in the West definitely have that all or nothing mentality and a tendency towards fundamental attribution error — blaming the mistakes of others on their personality flaws (have I already written about this to you? I think I have.). When you have such a strong tendency towards black-and-white thinking and FAE, I think it makes you ripe for the authoritarian BS and the moralistic judgementalness of the Christian conservative. A person is either all good or all bad, and if you’re bad it is because you are deeply flawed. It causes that self-righteous hypocrisy because, of course, we are all flawed in some way, but because you cannot own your errors and quirks publicly, then you have to cover them up and cloak yourself in high-minded prudishness.

              That’s a blog post I need to write some day soon.


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              • The snake is an interesting character, probably left over from the pre-Moses Hebrew tribal polytheism. That the thing about polytheism, in those mythologies nobody is simple good or evil, even the creation stories are complex and feature family drama. Real life is messy and those stories reflect that.

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                • Howdy Bob!

                  As I understand the pre-Moses Middle East area, religion was much more personal and regional. The gods were very local. They were another feature of the area you lived like a river or valley or other resource. You moved and you started worshiping the gods of the area. With Moses, things changed. God became more omnipotent and demanding. So, the snake could’ve come from one of those.

                  Snakes in general have frequently been considered evil or at least the colder more threatening side of the pantheon. They are reptiles, glassy eyes, cold-blooded, and, usually, most importantly, they molt. They shed their skin and live. It really is counter to everything we conceive of as living.


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    • Howdy Bob!

      As I read the part of the article about wanting the spouse that everyone wants, I flashed to the celibacy fellows whose moniker escapes me at the moment. The ones that want every woman a sex slave because they can’t figure out how to be in a meaningful relationship with a woman. Apparently, they have internalized, to some degree, this notion that everything we have must be the best because American Exceptionalism. And, they’ve internalized the notion that if they are not absolutely getting everything they imagine they should be getting it is because they are flawed. And, they’ve internalized a sense of entitlement.

      In some ways the Puritans have saddled us with a miserable freaking cultural mindset.


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      • There’s a song by The Battlefield Band about an ancient tree in their native Scotland as a witness to history, “The Yew Tree”. One verse speaks to the point.

        “Did you no’ think tae tell when John Knox himsel’
        Preached under your branches sae black
        To the poor common folk who would lift up the yoke
        O’ the bishops and priests frae their backs
        But you knew the bargain he sold them
        And freedom was only one part
        For the price o’ their souls was a gospel sae cold
        It would freeze up the joy in their hearts”

        As for the so-called “Incels” (Involuntaraly Celebate), their sense of entitlement is immense and toxic.

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  1. I am glad you pointed out that the EPA has acknowledged that the coal companies are still polluting and killing. I am surprised that the EPA wasn’t gagged from this admission.

    I so much agree with you about not speaking the name of the POTUS. Even that is too good for him, along with your title of Pussy Grabber I prefer to refer to him as the 45th WHO (White House occupant.)

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    • Howdy Jerry!

      I call him the Ol’ Pussy Grabber so consistently just to remind everyone that he is a confessed rapist. It is one of the clearest examples of his malignant narcissism: (a) malignant because it is a violation of the rights of others and (b) narcissistic because he defends it as “when you’re rich, they’ll let you do anything,” meaning they won’t complain loudly or to the management or call the police.

      I was surprised that the EPA report was suppressed. But, the GOP is not even trying to hide its avarice and disdain for the average American. Congress is moving as fast as it can to pack the judiciary with as many radical conservative judges and transfer as much wealth from the middle class to the rich as is possible before being voted out or the economy collapsing… AGAIN.

      We have a culture that actually revers greed and other excesses. And, blames the individual for anything bad that happens to them. It is a perfect storm for this kind of mishegas. One day, it might actually be our ruin.



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