Recently, we were treated to a sweaty, bent, blustering, fuming, and horse caricature-in-chief trying to defend his record through lying, diversion, evasion, and obfuscation under the tough questioning of NBC‘s Savannah Guthrie. If you didn’t see the circus clown clawing his way through the town hall, then you probably should, I guess. Some of it has to be seen to be believed. I’m sure you’ve seen the outtakes on your favorite news and social media platforms.
His performance begs the question of why. Why would he lie so often, be so visibly angry and aggressive, evade and divert so transparently? You would wonder if you didn’t know that he is a unproductive malignant narcissistic personality disorder, but I know regular readers do and you know that each one of those responses is a coping mechanism that he feels when held accountable for all of his corruption and debasement of our government and society.
Guthrie’s close questioning of him was a narcissistic wound. A narcissistic wound is an extremely negative reaction to criticisms and limits on behavior. You know kind of like Guthrie was delivering throughout. Both Guthrie and the Ol’ Pussy Grabber had done their homework. Both were prepared for the other. They had thought about what the other was likely to say and had answers and information at the ready. Having push back on his lies, especially about #COVID19 and ballot fraud, was an annoyance to the Ol’ Pussy Grabber. There was one notable exception, the sharp questions about his #COVID19 test on the day of the first debate next week.
There are two questions that we want to answer:
- What causes the narcissistic wound in the first place? Notice that this is not what causes a narcissistic personality disorder to exist. While every narcissist is a walking and talking narcissistic wound, we all have experienced a narcissistic wound. The reason we all have them is the same as that for the narcissist. It is just a matter of severity and size, so to speak.
- What are the coping mechanism that the Ol’ Pussy Grabber used during the NBC Town Hall? That hour was pretty much the last four years in miniature, writ small. While there are more coping mechanisms that narcissists use, you saw the major ones on display there.
We’ll answer the first one — what causes narcissistic wounds — in this post, and the second — the coping mechanisms — in another post.
ASIDE: COMMENTS ON HIS APPEARANCE DURING THE TOWN HALL
Anyone who watched the NBC Town Hall in lieu of the town hall debate probably focused more on the nonsense that he spewed from his lie hole or was distracted by the nodding woman over his left shoulder. But, I watched for his appearance and signs of his health. Here’s what I saw:
- He was sweaty. His face was glistening and shiny, especially compared to Guthrie.
- He was breathing hard. Was it nerves or his lingering pneumonia?
- He was bent into an awkward posture. Was he having trouble sitting up for that long?
- He wasn’t orange. Did he change his make-up routine to give himself a healthier hue?
- His voice was rough and horse.
- He was mentally sharp. He hit his talking points and stuck to them, though.
Let me know what you saw and thought during the town hall in the COMMENTS.
Causes of Narcissistic Wounds
Narcissists believe that they are perfect. They can make no mistakes. They know they are the smartest and most capable person not only in the room, but whoever existed. Ironically, they also doubt whether it is all true. They are like a Big Fig Newton: Golden flaky tender cakey on the outside and ooey-gooey rich and chewy on the inside.
Lugging the clownishly oversized ego around is exhausting because the narcissist must maintain two contradictory beliefs: (1) He is perfect, and he must present this fragile front of faultlessness to the world. And (2) he harbors deep-seated doubts, insecurities, and self-loathing about his true abilities and self worth. Inside the orange crusty surface is a black hole of self-enmity with a core of shame pulling any self-esteem into it. The narcissist lives in a world of emotional pain and suffering that is covered over by his blatant aspirations to perfection.
The driving force for the narcissist is avoiding humiliation. Any error or perceived error is humiliating. Ironically, it is humiliation that ties us all to the narcissist. All mental illness is a normal experience of or reaction to the world that now dominates a person’s life. We all experience humiliation and all experience a narcissistic wound when we do. The very definition of narcissistic wound is the response to an injury to our egos.
For “normal” people, most of our errors might be mildly embarrassing, but they are not accompanied by debilitating humiliation. When we do encounter a situation that we are humiliated by — everybody has something or things that we are particularly sensitive about and will be ashamed of should we err in them or are found out about — we will react similarly to the narcissist with anger or self-recrimination, but for the narcissist every thing is particularly sensitive and every error, no matter how minor, is as humiliating as our worst errors. That’s why people who have narcissistic personality disorder are so dysfunctional and probably should not be holding the most powerful position in the history of the world.
The cause of the narcissistic wound is the humiliation felt after making a particularly bad blunder, but for the narcissist any time their fragile front of faultlessness is challenged, no matter how minor the challenge is, they are deeply humiliated and extremely ashamed. They react by projecting their fear of exposure onto others — in the Ol’ Pussy Grabber’s case it is often the press and individual reporters. In “reality,” he is just trying to distract himself from his ooey-gooey rich and chewy inside.
Nature vs. Nurture or Fred’s Bad Genes or Bad Behavior?
Does the original injury come from a parent or other incident in early childhood, is the person born with little or no self-esteem, or is it a combination of a brutal childhood being inflicted upon a child ill-equipped to deal with it? Who knows. It is clear to me that Fred Trump was a brutal sadist. Whether he was a narcissistic personality disorder or anti-social personality disorder matters little. He passed those personality disorder genes on to his son and provided him the brutality in his childhood that together with the personality disorder genes produced the extreme malignant narcissistic personality disorder that is before us today.
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