Given the Pussy Grabber’s recent statement about re-initiating the nuclear arms race and cavalier attitudes about the use of nuclear weapons he expressed during the campaign and whatever weird and unhealthy relationship he has with Putin — they both released statements about engaging in a nuclear arms race within days of each other. Coincidence? Paranoid minds know it isn’t.
Couple these points with the effect the infamous Comey letter had on the election outcome (a very real shift towards the Pussy Grabber in the last two-weeks of the election), we can now make a very reasonable claim that Anthony Weiner’s dick will lead to the end of the world.
Well, fuck. Ain’t that just marvelous. What the fuck Anthony? Just what the fucking fuck, man? Just what is behind the dick pic urge? Why do men send women pictures of their junk? Feel free to speculate wildly or make confessions in the comments, y’all!
Like most sexual phenomena the causes are probably complex and vary from individual to individual, but there are several commonalities and, as always, psychology has something to add to understanding this whole thing.
No One Wants to See Yo Junk
First, let’s just get this out of the way: Ain’t no woman wants to look at a picture of your dick, man. They just don’t. You have to accept this idea like you accept gravity and the phases of the moon or the tides or other complex sciencey stuff that no one really understands.
The Dopamine of Dix Pix
Weiner — how appropriately named is that dude? I mean, do you think his name has anything to do with his compulsion to send pictures of his dick to anyone and everyone? Do you think he ever sent a picture of his dick to Clinton? Huma? Comey? the Pussy Grabber? — has claimed a sex addiction that makes him do it. Many people doubt the existence of sex addiction in the same way that people can be addicted to alcohol and drugs. It is more of a dopamine-based compulsion more akin to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Why is this important? Because a good diagnosis leads to an effective treatment. And can save you lots of cash from going to a sex addiction treatment center and come out with your compulsion intact and your bank account empty.
Can all the assholes out there sending pictures of their dicks to unsuspecting women on Tinder, Tumblr, Instagram, Snapchat, and other social media platforms be sex addicts? Probably not. Most of them are just assholes.
Sadistic Misogynistic Mo’ Fo’s
One of the more likely contenders for why men send dic pics (shouldn’t this be the actual way to refer to the phenomenon instead of dick pic? And we could use dix pix for the plural because that would be cool, right? Feel free to agree or disagree or make your own suggestions for other ways to label this important social media phenomenon) is everyday sadism.
As it turns out, your everyday garden variety run-of-the-mill online troll is motivated by sadism. Their main goal is to cause consternation, discomfort, anger, fear, and other negative emotions in their targeted audience. Probably, many of the men sending pictures of their penises to women want the same thing. They want the women to be upset by an unwanted, unsolicited, and unappreciated picture of their dicks.
There is more than a little misogyny mixed into the practice. My google search for the history and causes of the dick pic turned up precious little with the exception of a Refinery 29 article, Real Dick Pic Senders Explain Why They Do It. Some of the respondents had some insight beyond, chicks dig it. They realized that they did it to upset women. They felt ignored or even disliked by the women on various social media dating sites. So, like most toddlers, they concluded that any kind of attention was better than no attention, so they go for the sure fire, Ew what kind of creep are you? response. If you ever felt assaulted by a dick pic, it is because you were! #silverlining, amirite?
Empty Headed Zero Theory of Mind
Then there is the failure of theory of mind. Theory of mind is the concept that states we each have an idea of what other people are thinking and feeling. We can project onto others emotional and rational responses that may differ from our own. Many of these men lack a theory of mind. They seem to be operating off of the quaint notion that they like seeing pictures of anonymous women’s genitals, so women will like seeing pictures of theirs. They seem to think that since they are turned on by pornography, women will be, too. They seem to think that since they will lose their minds and become overwhelmed by their desire — the blood rushing from their brains to their dicks makes rational thought and impulse control damn near impossible — when they see pictures of nekkid women, women will respond in kind despite any personal experience to the contrary. In fact, despite ample evidence that this just isn’t the case. Imagine believing, just one glimpse of my raging hardon, and she’ll swoon into my arms and beg me to ravage her. Right. Like that scenario exists outside of pornography.
Socially Obligated to be Raped
And then there is the dick-for-twat obligation. I sent you a picture of mine, now you have to send me a picture of yours. This is the whole, I bought you dinner and a movie now you have to fuck me rape culture bullshit projected onto modern social media platforms. Unfortunately, women are acculturated to succumbing to this type of social pressure and guilt and some will comply, especially the younger ones, amirite, Anthony Weiner? That’s why younger women are so popular with a certain type of guy.
Well, I guess there is a corollary to this one and that is the Spike Lee, Please Baby, Please Baby, Please Baby, Please approach. It is that if you seem pathetic enough — and good god, y’all, men are seeming pretty damn pathetic as of this writing — someone will take pity on you and put out (the infamous pity fuck) or send you a picture of their tits or pussy so you can spread it on social media and slut shame them for the rest of their lives because you are a sadistic misogynous fuck.
The last insight I have is the age old Do you wanna fuck? approach to seduction: if you ask every woman you meet if she wants to fuck, you’ll eventually find one who does. If you send enough dick pics to women, you’ll eventually get one back.
Seriously, guys, dix pix only work on the gay scene proving, once again, that straight men wish they were having sex like gay men do.
Well, shit, now that I’m pretty thoroughly depressed by realizing that I am a card carrying member of male idiocy, I’m off to send out a few dozen dix pix to unsuspecting women to help me feel better about my existence. Leave a note in the comments, if you want one.
Tuesday 27 December
There are some pretty funny, weird, disgusting, and, sometimes, helpful social media sites on dix pix. Here’s one that I think most women will find helpful, Bye Felipe, on Instagram. It is a site devoted to women posting the disgusting things men send them on the Interwebs. The site is run by Alexandra Tweten. It can be cathartic. It can be harrowing. It can let you know that you are not alone. And, it can leave you feeling ashamed of many men out there.
Alexandra also runs a website, Bye Felipe in which she and Eileen Beard co-host a pod cast making light of horrid dating stories.